jinx

So my friend who is an ob/gyn has offered me her crib. She knows we are trying, and that we have seen the RE because I asked her for her advice as far as seeking medical help. She is 29, has two daughters and had her tubes tied at the ripe old age of 27.

While it’s a lovely offer, I have a few problems with it. We’ll start with the silly first. The crib is not what I would buy. It’s a fine color, it’s just got, well, carving kinds of things in the shape of hearts on either end. I’m not a heart person. I’m plain and boring. But I know babies only sleep in them so long, and they certainly don’t care about hearts or no hearts. Maybe babies even like hearts. But it’s free…and free is a good thing, considering how much everything related to babies or baby creating seems to cost.

The more serious reason (for me): it is possible that we may never have a baby. I don’t want to jinx anything. I don’t want to buy any baby stuff, have any baby stuff in the house, or have anyone give me any baby stuff until I’m very pregnant with a healthy baby (say about 38 weeks or so). Ok, ok, maybe a little sooner than that (34 weeks?). I don’t want to have to look at baby stuff or have to get rid of baby stuff.

I don’t want to explain this to my friend, so I will probably just decline her offer. She will give the crib to Goodwill, and then feel very offended if I ever do buy a crib that looks like hers. At least I won’t be jinxed.

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~ by Larisa on June 22, 2005.

5 Responses to “jinx”

  1. Mrs. Hope, In Jewish tradition you don’t bring anything baby-related into the home until the baby is born. No baby showers beforehand – only celebrations afterward. So I don’t think what you’re feeling is unusual or weird at all. In fact, I would expect your friend to completely understand. If you don’t want the crib, just say no thank you. This way your friend gets to feel good about having made the offer, and she can donate it and get a tax deduction!

  2. I agree with Mellie. No need for an explanation. Acknowledge the kindness of the offer and then politely decline.

  3. Good point. Mellie and P. Polite declining is the way to go.

  4. Ohgodohgodohgod.

    I read your post and it was as if i had just written it.

    I have the same thoughts ALL the time. “I can’t do that; what if this NEVER happens????” More than afraid of jinxing myself, I’m afraid that fate will just be very cruel.

    Perhaps that’s the same thing.

    At any rate- just say a very sweet, heartfelt thanks for her offer, and leave it at that.

    Self-preservation, my friend. It’s the name of the game around these parts, isn’t it?

    -D.

  5. Ohgodohgodohgod.

    I read your post and it was as if i had just written it.

    I have the same thoughts ALL the time. “I can’t do that; what if this NEVER happens????” More than afraid of jinxing myself, I’m afraid that fate will just be very cruel.

    Perhaps that’s the same thing.

    At any rate- just say a very sweet, heartfelt thanks for her offer, and leave it at that.

    Self-preservation, my friend. It’s the name of the game around these parts, isn’t it?

    -D.

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