fucking infertility

I am so angry. I am so sad.

Infertility is so unfair. It takes so much.

I met a woman in November who sees my doctor. We became fast friends – we ended up cycling together for my first IVF cycle, her second. She had retrieval one day after me.

They put back two embryos – absolutely beautiful blasts. She was pregnant. The surprise was that one of those blasts had split into identical twins – so she was pregnant with triplets.

She did everything she was supposed to do. She was already on house rest, she was going to the local perinatal group for pre-term labor checks. She was 21 weeks, 5 days.

She lost all three babies this morning.

I did the only thing I knew to do – I went up there and gave her a hug. I cannot fathom her pain.

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~ by Larisa on August 10, 2006.

18 Responses to “fucking infertility”

  1. I’m so sorry for your friend, Mrs. Hope. You’re right. It is so unfair.

  2. That’s so horific. What a tragedy.

  3. omg I can not imagine her pain! I am sending lots of prayers here way. Damn I really hate infertility. For everyone.

    Hugs!!

  4. CRAP CRAP CRAP. Man this whole things sucks the big one. I am sorry Mrs. Hope, sorry for your friend, sorry for your discomfort and sorry to what all this does to your emotions.

  5. i’m so very sorry. how absolutely heartbreaking. i will forever hurt for the loss of a child…any child…it just shouldn’t happen.

  6. Oh Mrs. Hope, I’m so sorry for your friend’s loss. I can’t imagine her pain.

  7. How awful. I hope that when the time is right (if it ever is) you’ll tell her we were all thinking of her.

  8. It’s absolutely horrifying the things people go through. I can’t imagine her rage and sorrow. I’m so sorry.

  9. Oh mrs. hope, that is so unfair and just horrible. I am so sorry for your friend.

    ((HUGS))

  10. There are no words…

  11. I am so sorry for your friend, Mrs. Hope. You’re a fabulous friend to hug her and let her know you’re there… not fixing something that can’t be fixed or giving worthless advice — just being there. I can’t imagine the pain. I just can’t.

  12. Terrible. I can’t imagine your friend’s sadness. I am sure your hug meant the world to her.

  13. That is rough. I just don’t get the randomness of the hand of fertility.

  14. That is so terrible. Please pass my condolences to her.

  15. gasp! (tears) speachless.
    I cannot imagine.

  16. That is such a terrible story – I’m so sorry that she has had to go through so much and I can’t imagine what pain she must be in right now. So sad!

  17. So incredibly unfair. I’ve sat here at the keyboard for a full 5 minutes, fingers poised, trying to figure out what to type.

    It’s just not fair. I’m praying for your friend and her family.
    -D.

  18. Oh, what a terrible loss. I’m sorry for your friend.

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