Well, we’ve made some decisions.

We went to Houston for a 3rd opinion. J commented that I managed to find a doctor who is the complete antithesis of my doctor in terms of personality. This doctor took us back 15 minutes early, he was very quiet and sedate, and his office was immaculate. My doctor is perpetually late, is boisterous, loud, and funny, and you can’t see his desk for all the papers, journals, and charts.

The Houston doctor had nothing but good things to say about my doctor and the clinic. He essentially wouldn’t do anything differently.

He also said that they’ve rarely gotten patients from my clinic due to repeated failures. He said that we could just be having bad luck. That it could be the cervix, the endo…or those could just be red herrings.

We did do some additional bloodwork – karyotyping and a thrombophilia panel. They are tests that have a 1% or less chance of showing anything wrong, and they are tests I could wrangle my doctor into ordering. But in Houston, there was no wrangling necessary, so we just did them there.

I am relieved we went for the 3rd opinion. The 2nd opinion had irked and irritated me, as well as made me doubt our path. The third confirmed that we are doing the best we can. And that I’m not making some horrible decision by choosing to stay at a place where I’m comfortable.

So that’s that for now. I don’t want to wait – patience with this treatment stuff is not my strength. But I’m also tired, and I’m trying to tell myself that maybe a “break” is good.

Who am I kidding?

~ by Larisa on October 22, 2006.

8 Responses to “decisions”

  1. Sounds like you have done all the things I would do — a 3rd opinion and finding a job to cover the IVF. I am glad this Dr. reassured you.

    When I took (or was forced) to take some breaks from treatments, I was always surprised at how much more “normal” I felt – mostly emotionally. Maybe having an unplanned break over the holidays will be a pleasant surprise? I certainly hope so!

  2. That is great that you found a job that will cover 3 IVFs. The pay may not be crap, but at least you won’t have to shell out thousands for treatments.
    I’m glad to hear your 3rd opinion gave you some peace. I hope that February is the month for you, and that you didn’t wait for nothing.
    I’ve been forced into taking a break, and it is refreshing to not think about when to have to take the next pill, when am I going to O, etc. I hope it is a good break for you.

  3. IVF coverage is a very good benefit. Even though the job pays less, will it be less demanding and more flexible? If so, that’s probably a good thing.

    I am glad that your third opinion agreed with your treatment plan. That brings us comfort. I do so sincerely hope that this next cycle is successful. And in the meantime, I hope you enjoy your forced break.

  4. Wow, quite the change of pace. I don’t know why I feel relieved for you, but I do. It almost seems like this would be a “reboot” for your body; it just boggles my mind at how much you’ve gone through so far. Do you mind sharing what kind of work you’re doing now? I know our degree prepares us for anything–the good thing is you can go back into sp/lang pretty easily once you’ve completed your successful cycle. Enjoy your months off, with hope ahead of you.

  5. A break is good. I remember when a break felt like time wasted, and I completely understand… but try to take advantage of the time off. Is there a race you can train for in the meantime?

  6. I know taking a break sounds like more time spent passing and not being used to it’s fullest. I alway feel that way when I take breaks– but I find the breaks when I do take them (grudgingly) remind me that I have a life outside of infertility. Good luck with your break. I’ll keep checking back to see how you do 🙂

  7. I hope you are enjoying your break… and that you get exactly what you are dreaming of when you resume TTC.
    I can’t think of a single person who deserves it more.
    Thinking of you-

  8. I hope you are enjoying your break… and that you get exactly what you are dreaming of when you resume TTC.
    I can’t think of a single person who deserves it more.
    Thinking of you-

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