again!

The scan this morning was amazing. The baby looked great, and the sonographer measured the baby’s head, abdomen, and femur instead of the crown-rump length, and the dates those gave were much, much closer to the IVF dates. Only 4 days behind on average versus the 6-8 we’ve been quoted the past few appointments. The baby wigggled, kicked, and you could see the mouth moving. You could see the hemispheres of the brain and the stomach was visible as well.

My doctor wanted one more scan in a week, then I would graduate to every 2-4 weeks. We felt great after the appointment. I began planning to go back to work tomorrow.

Then…more blood. Not bright red, but still red, and significantly more than spotting. Yes, we did a vaginal scan this time, but we did one last Monday, and I didn’t have this result. No, I’m not horribly worried about the viability of the baby.

But I am worried. Should I go back to work? The doctor’s office suggested “light duty” if the bleeding stopped by tomorrow morning. I’m not sure there is such a thing as “light duty” when trying to do therapy with an 18 or 30 month old in their own home. I sit, stand, squat, walk, trot, go up and down stairs. Not to mention the driving! Not that it’s high impact – and not that I couldn’t make some conscious decisions about my activity level.

I’ve also only had this job for 5 weeks. And we’d planned on me taking at least a year off after baby. And this is so completely and utterly more important than any speech therapy job could ever be. Period.

But I also know there is no proof that bed rest or a reduced activity level will have any impact on the bleeding, spotting, or viability of the pregnancy. I know that what I do probably won’t have any impact on the outcome of this pregnancy.

I’m still leaning towards erring on the side of caution. I’m just looking for someone to tell me it’s the right thing to do – and no one can actually do that.

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~ by Larisa on July 17, 2007.

17 Responses to “again!”

  1. I’m glad the scan looked good.

    The way I look at decisions like that is, if I go back to work and the worst happens, am I going to blame myself? Not exactly a happy way to look at it, but it works for me.

  2. Glad that the scan went well and the baby was wiggling around! It’s still so wonderfully amazing to me that what started out so rough, so scary with the sac measurements, has caught up and is now normal. Wahoo!

    That seriously sucks about the bleeding. Why, oh why can’t it just be easy?! Regarding the “light duty” definition and decision, you need to do what your gut tells you.

  3. Never doubt yourself – I learned the hard way. Listen to your body and follow it without a shadow of a doubt.

  4. Never doubt yourself – I learned the hard way. Listen to your body and follow it without a shadow of a doubt.

  5. I think you hit the nail on the head by saying that no job could ever be as important as this pregnancy. It may be true that it’s unlikely your activity level will have a negative impact, but if it were me … in the unlikely event that anything should go wrong, I would not want ever to have to look back and wonder whether there was anything I could have done differently that might have prevented it. So in my opinion, screw the job and rest up. Just my 2 cents.

    On a more positive note … so glad you had a wonderful scan – sounds like baby is doing great!! Hooray!

  6. so happy for you that you got to have another special moment with your little one.

    and i know i’m not anyone important like an MD but i say DO IT. stay home and “relax” yourself and your body. i know it’s a scary situation and you want guarantees but unfortunately there aren’t any. so i say just do everything you can possibly do that’s within your control.

  7. i’m glad the scan went so well. it sucks about the bleeding though…. i really hope that stops soon. as far as the job? you have to go with your gut on that one. can you afford to stop working early?

  8. I was about to say that bit about there’s no proof it makes any difference to go on bed rest or any kind of rest,but I know from experience that it does help make you feel like you are DOING SOMETHING which always helps (although it’s also really boring, which doesn’t). In the end, you need to do what ever will give you the closest to peace of mind that you can get at the moment.

    But fab news that the fetus is much more on track than you thought!

  9. This is absolutely good news (sans spotting)! I’m so glad that they were able to take more specific measurements this time. As far as work and home, it really isn’t an easy decision but listen to your innermost voice.

  10. I’d be all for caution in your shoes, I think. But I can imagine it’s a difficult thing to decide.

    Were I to quit working today (hypothetically), I’d inconvenience my coworkers a lot, and that’s not an appealing thing to have to decide upon.

    I’m very glad the scan was so good.

  11. I’d be all for caution in your shoes, I think. But I can imagine it’s a difficult thing to decide.

    Were I to quit working today (hypothetically), I’d inconvenience my coworkers a lot, and that’s not an appealing thing to have to decide upon.

    I’m very glad the scan was so good.

  12. So glad to hear the good news!
    I’m sure whatever decision you made about work is the right one – you know yourself best!

  13. glad to hear the scan news. I am so delighted about that. I’m sorry about the work issue and “light duty.” Therapy is not something you can scale down. You’re right, no one can tell you what to do, we’ll only tell you to go with your instinct and the best solution you find in your heart after you’ve mulled all the data and options around for a while. I hope the decision you make comes easily, and that you go without resistance from anyone else.
    I am thinking of you and so very excited for your good news!

  14. This is only what I would do, but I would quit and rest as much as I could because the “what ifs” would kill me. Congrats on the normal ultrasound!

  15. I’m so glad the scan brought you peace in regards to the well-being of your baby.

    Would your OB friend possibly offer advice?

  16. Glad all is well right now.

    I think the best way to decide is to do what will leave you feeling best no matter what happens. Sort of a leave no room for doubt appraoch.

  17. Glad all is well right now.

    I think the best way to decide is to do what will leave you feeling best no matter what happens. Sort of a leave no room for doubt appraoch.

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