just a stupid question

Why, if I’ve never gotten pregnant on my own, is it called “secondary infertility”? Really, it’s totally different the second time around, but I do think the label is sort of silly. It’s not like I ever thought of myself as “fertile”.

And why, if we’ve only ever done ICSI, is that considered “proven fertility” on the part of Mr. Hope?

Am I just not understanding something here?

~ by Larisa on January 18, 2009.

5 Responses to “just a stupid question”

  1. I agree, “secondary infertility” isn’t a term I’m fond of. Sure, I have a baby now — but I’ve never been fertile.

    There should be two different names — one for people who’ve actually been fertile at some point, and one for those of us who haven’t. 🙂

  2. That’s a tricky one. Maybe they should call it “infertility after FORCED fertility” or something… I don’t know.

    But I’m hoping you can lose the label very, very soon 🙂

  3. I hear ya. I had my baby girl via IVF/ICSI. My hubby says we are not infertile anymore since we have a baby. Um, no, we are still infertile because we can’t get pregnant on our own. It’s an ongoing debate in our house.

  4. Technically secondary infertility is when you didn’t experience IF when you conceived your first (or more) child and then went on to face IF when you tried for another. If you experienced primary IF when TTC your first child, you’re still experiencing primary IF if you TTC another.

    I was so glad to read that your trial transfer went so well. I was always told that the only thing that would help my wonky cervix was delivering a baby. I’m so glad that wound up being the case for you.

  5. Whatever you’re missing—I’m missing it too!!!

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