There are some things that shouldn’t be photographed. And, if someone decided to photograph them, they shouldn’t be displayed.

You know, like hospital stays after a brutal miscarriage and subsequent blood transfusions and possible infection. Mmmhmmm. I don’t remember the photo being taken. But there it was, on my in-law’s digital photo frame. I saw it and immediately knew what it was, and couldn’t help but say aloud, “can we take that off?” My sister in law didn’t get it at first, and my mother in law just said, “oh that’s the miscarriage.”

I want to throw the SD card plugged into the frame away. Seriously. Those are days that are dark in a way that apparently, even my mother in law who was there for part of them doesn’t understand. Private. I look like crap in the picture. I felt worse. And that’s the only picture of me that spins by on that fucking frame.

~ by Larisa on December 19, 2010.

10 Responses to “privacy”

  1. I’m sorry, but who the hell takes pictures at a time like that?!?!? That is terrible. She should take it down.

  2. Seriously?!? Why she would even take the photo much less display it much less trivialize it. Even if she can’t understand the emotional or physical pain that you went through- and still go through remembering and how it affected future ART- surely she realizes miscarriage=BAD= take down the damn photo. So sorry. That would cut through anyone like a knife- and then to have it play over and over. So sorry.

  3. So sorry!
    But who takes a picture at time like that? And then put it on there digital picture frame….really?? Who does that??

  4. If you give me her address I will totally throw the frame away for you. I can’t believe someone would do something like that.

    I’m sorry. 😦

  5. I really do not even know what to say.
    Your retelling of her words cut through ME, so I cannot even imagine how they felt to you.
    Just when you think you couldn’t feel pain in a new way, someone has to go and digitalize it.
    I’d pull that SD card out and un-ass on it Office Space printer style. Sheesh.

  6. Fine, okay, I can understand putting it in there in ignorance in the first place. But dismissing your concerns by saying something like “oh, that’s JUST the miscarriage?” Holy fuck woman, *I* want to kick her and I don’t even KNOW her.

    Wrapping you in a virtual hug, sweetie. I wish I could do more.


  7. “JUST” the miscarriage?! That is JUST not OK. NOT even close.

  8. Ok, I know I am just repeating what has already been said, but seriously? First, of all, taking the picture in the first place…wrong! Then choosing to display it and the only picture of you in the whole series? Wrong and wrong. And when called on it, to not even apologize for it? Wrong, wrong, wrong!

    I’m sorry you had such a painful and private moment put on display like that.

  9. Huh? A picture of WHAT?!

    And you have so many beautiful pictures of you as a family.

  10. Wow, I’m so shocked that she could be so matter of fact about it. I saw your new post and I am glad you got the pictures off of there!

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